Charlotte Easley is a life coach with a background in clinical counseling work, specializing in trauma. She works with women to help them understand that their worth doesn’t come from what they do, but rather, who they are.

When she was 56 years old, her youngest child went off to military school, but she knew that God wasn’t done with her yet! So she embarked on a “second journey” and began on a Master’s of Social Work program - in a classroom full of 20-somethings. 

Charlotte had been praying that God would break her heart for something that breaks His. She really has a heart to help others, but also felt that

On Healthy Boundaries for Women

If we haven’t had good models, boundaries can be really difficult. This can be especially relevant to Christian women. Oftentimes setting boundaries is seen as being selfish or bossy. Learning to set good boundaries is like learning a new language. We need to hyper-practice in the beginning, but eventually, it becomes automatic. Our brain just loves to learn new things.

She pointed out that we usually know where we stand with people who have healthy boundaries. They may not be our favorite people, but we feel safe with them; we know their values and what they stand for.

How do we set boundaries for ourselves as moms?

First of all, we have to understand that boundaries are ok. We’re not being mean or selfish or difficult when we set them. They are choices we make that allow us to take care of ourselves, respect ourselves, and set ourselves up for success. 

Negotiable boundaries are ones that we’re willing to work on to make them happen.

Non-negotiables are things that don’t line up with our values or faith. 

We all (need to) have both and have to develop the skill of managing them.

What are thought habits?

God knew from the beginning that the world was going to be a hard place for us. He often talks in Scripture about our thoughts, and how they prime our brain.

When we get caught up in emotions, our thoughts are subverted and put us on an uneven keel. We end up reacting instead of responding. But if we’re constantly practicing gratitude and worship, then we’re going to be finding more and more things to be grateful for…to give praise for… 

In our conversation, Charlotte left us with a 3-step word of advice to the woman who might be feeling called to step out in a new life direction:

1. Pray - that God would show you the direction to take, and be grateful for the doors He has already opened for us, and have the heart to follow where He sends us

2. Do the research - God gave us brains, so give the Holy Spirit the opportunity to show us! Ask for discernment as you discover the new information…

3. Find some people who will speak truth to you in love and grace, and be willing to listen to them.

EAT READ LOVE

Charlotte is eating… Everything! We celebrate lots of birthdays in January and February every year 

Charlotte is reading… “Another Gospel” by Alisa Childers

Charlotte is loving… A sweater my daughter bought on Amazon that she didn’t like!

So much gold in this episode. It’s like sitting and listening to a sweet, loving friend and mentor…

Listen to our entire interview here.

Download her “10 Thought Habits that May be Sabotaging Your Relationships” from her website at CharlotteEasley.com

Reach out to her on Instagram @thewomanslifecoach
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